Relationship red flags, dysfunctional communication, parent child dynamics, balancing the other: these are covered so you don’t get divorced. If you do Jeannine Lee’s Beyond Divorce book and Group Recovery groups is a must to listen to. Learn about yourself and process all the tumultuous emotions.
Jeannine Lee, author of Beyond Divorce
, has a great specialty when it comes to being a life coach and relationship coach. We discuss how to find a life coach that is worth their grain of salt based on certifications and the like because it’s so easy to call yourself a coach and offer advice but not have much training.
Over her life she didn’t plan to carve a niche in the divorce market but through her own life experience, meditation and more (which she talks about) she found her calling and has spent over a decade helping people recover from the trauma of divorce.
This episode we dive deep into
• relationship red flags
• 3 strategies to communicate that are common but not so healthy
• ways we use Dysfunctional Communication
• how to grow beyond your problem
• how to feel loved and appreciated by the other
• reasons we feel neglected
• What is the Parent- Child Dynamic and why its Destroys marriages and how it stems from childhood
• the balancing act: spenders vs savers, introvert vs extrovert .. making these roles less polarized
• patterns from childhood that repeat with our loved ones
• what to do if only one of you wants to change so that the relationship can be not only salvaged but rebuilt and stronger than ever.
Why and how does she relate a divorce to the following 3 Steps –Brokenness, Puberty and Adult Transformational Process.
Jeannine really wishes she could get to couples before that point of no return so she can spare the heartache of divorce.
John Gottman’s The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
– 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Critical, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stone Walling … if any of these are present, they will destroy your marriage.
Complaint is an unspoken request. How to find and implement a “Repair Intent”, learn what that means and how to use it.
Ways to talk and act that really “Drops Into The Heart” Of Your Partner.
Boundaries are important and Jeannine briefly gives examples of how to set those up in a variety of scenarios.
Why is it that guys tend to only take their wives complaints seriously when they are walking out the door?
What sets up a couple for an Affair and ways to fix/ avoid before it happens?
She goes over what to expect if you were to attend one of her 10 week Divorce Recovery and Empowerment Program.
www.beyonddivorce.com to see all about Jeannine Lee as well as information on how you can investigate how to be a Facilitator of Beyond Divorce Recovery and Empowerment Program Groups in your own area. Her Book Beyond Divorce and between the book, her training and the 4 inch binder of “how to” you can be well equipped to lead your own group.
What to look for in a quality, certified Life coach (ACC, PCC, MCC) and were is that field going in the next 5 years?
upheavaltouplevel.com Even though divorce is getting lower, maybe because of cohabitating instead of marriage, life will always have upheavals. Family member gets cancer, dies suddenly, you lose your job etc so how do you capitalize and change your mindset of these challenging times and uplevel from them.
How turning gluten free 10 years ago and juicing once a year has changed her health.
She has been doing meditation for years and helps her get out of her own mind and gives a calm in the ocean, a creating sense of wholeness with all the direction life pulls us. How long can you mind be clear without having a single thought?
Eckhart Tolle The Power of Now
, Byron Katie Loving What Is
(4 Questions to Challenge Your Negative Thoughts)- Jeannine talks about these, and A Thousand Names for Joy
Show notes can be found at www.adoctorsperspective.net/72 >here you can also find links to things mentioned.